Older male friends tell me about their experiences from living with the same woman for two to three decades; some joke for me never to do it, others say it has many benefits. Older female friends speak of sacrifices they’ve made for their families which makes them feel fulfilled; others moan about the lack of […]
In Love with a Stripper…
Last time I was in New York City, I went to a few strip clubs. They were always entertaining, hype with action and buzzing with sensual energy. Amid the different shades of debauchery, hot steamy rooms and financial transactions, I had very interesting conversations with some girls. One told me of her upbringing, background and […]
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Who’s Settling?
When it comes to issues of the heart, I notice we are generally very open and expressive about our limited understanding of human relationships. From our eyes, some couples don’t look like they belong together; call it the beauty and beast syndrome or the hot guy and ugly girl connection. Usually, there appears to be […]
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Grunts and Whispers…
It’s that time again; the sun’s out in London and space in the gym is tight; everybody’s trying to look their best in this season which is totally understandable. The other day, I happened to be two treadmills away from a rather large man. Shortly after getting on my machine, I started to hear grunts, […]
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Zebra Crossings…
En route home the other day, I was reminded of road etiquette. I find that over in London, generally speaking, zebra crossings actually give right of way to pedestrians. So motor vehicles usually allow foot shoulders to cross the road when at the zebra stripes. Now I’ve been in other cities or countries where […]
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Trying again…
So I was taking a shower in the gym yesterday when it dawned on me that I’ve been working out here for about a year now. I remember my first time and the not so pleasant experience I had with one of the gym personnel at the front desk. I felt it was unprofessional, to […]
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Living…
I’ve been with my girlfriend for about four years now. It’s been a great time I have to admit. We’ve shared different life events, memorable moments and experiences together. Some have been full of pure joy and ecstasy while others have been full of pain and tears. Looking back, I realise we are not necessarily […]
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Words from Heaven…
So my girlfriend is currently undertaking her teaching qualification. This involves some time at the university for the theoretical and the rest of the time at actual schools for the practical. As you can imagine, the whole process includes acceptance, adjustment and resistance based on exposure to new things. As usual, she tends to share her […]
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Forgive and Forget…
I heard a story the other day that revealed a lesson to me. There was a family christmas party and my friend had decided not to bring presents for certain members of the family. This come from painful memories of the past, unmet expectations and sour feelings of the present state of events. His brother […]
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Another Thought Captured…
I remember last New Year’s Eve, I was en route to a joint in the City of London to meet up with some friends. My transit was through Moorgate where I had worked when I first moved to the City. I’ve moved on for about a year now so this night was like a walk […]
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Happy…
I got on a bus the other evening. I was in my head reflecting, calculating and analysing something about the day, I can’t remember what exactly it was. About 5 minutes later, the doors swung open and the ramp was extended; out from the bus came a cute little kid in a wheelchair assisted by […]
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Life and Death…
Yesterday, I went to my first funeral. A friend of mine had been struggling with lung cancer for a while and finally gave up the fight; he was 27. He had been married for 2 years; his wife, friends and family are still working through the loss. The mood on the day was sad, gloomy […]
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Living Together…
I’m like D.O.E, Baby girl, I don’t got a huge ol’ house, I rent a room in a house. Throughout my adult life, I’ve always lived in a shared residential capacity. I’m still en route to buying my first house so expect an announcement shortly! Till then, I am where I am and share in […]
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Vulnerability…
I was out for dinner with a friend the other night and she was really upset from an earlier argument with one of her friends. Apparently this disagreement was intense and it brought up old resentment and irritations. Both are rather stubborn and strong willed ladies and this was like the straw that broke the […]
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Reinventions…
I can’t remember when exactly I started to realize my mom wasn’t the cutest girl but it must have been in my early teens. This was when I fell in love with curves; provocative girls from all over the world in sensual poses on glossy paper really tickled my fancy. And of course, the amazing […]
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What they really want…
I remember back in 2011 after my graduation from Business School, my job search was a very interesting process. I had spent considerable resources, time and energy to train my mind to able to think outside the box, analyze complex data and be better rounded in my perception of business. I was keen on continuing […]
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The look in your eyes…
Friday evening, I was waiting for my girlfriend at Bank underground station. I’m like many other people because I also like people watching! Different faces, different strides, different personalities all fascinate and remind me how beautiful and diverse London is. Then I saw a girl crying. She was pushing a travel bag and was in […]
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Little Sophie…
I found myself in the back of the bus the other day and sitting next to me was a little girl called Sophie. She was all smiles and full of energy this evening. She told me about her school, her granny she was en route to visit and her younger sister. She didn’t really like […]
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Sweet Memories…
Sometime last week, I called our Car hire company to book a ride to work for the following morning. A lady took my order and confirmed the relevant details in a professional manner. She had an interesting accent to which I inquired about and we somehow got talking. She told me about her background, upbringing […]
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Thoughts that pass away…
Last week, I got news that a former class mate and friend had passed away. This touched me deeply. Apparently she was involved in a car accident while driving to another city to visit her dad who was sick; the car was fully damaged and she died immediately. I remember her clearly- she was vibrant […]
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Live to Share or Share to Live?
I was babysitting in Church the other Saturday morning. There were about 6 kids at this session. As usual, they wanted to drink juice, eat popcorn and play in the big pen. I let them do this as much as they wanted and ensured there were no issues. One of the girls had brought chocolate […]
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The Dark side of Love…
I remember I was chatting with a colleague at my firm’s Christmas party last year. We traded stories about life, recent changes in our personal lives and general plans for the future. Of course we spoke about relationships; the good, bad and ugly of it because that’s what grown folks tend to talk about! I […]
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Look but don’t touch…
It’s part of company culture where I’m currently working to celebrate Fridays. The morning is filled with Happy Friday greetings, big smiles and conversations on weekend plans. We also tend to treat ourselves to breakfast out as a reward for a good job over the week. Like is popularly believed, treating yourself right is important for self-confidence! […]
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The Learning Process…
I recently finished a Tech course. This was a very interesting experience as it’s tied in with the new direction my career is heading. Just to be clear, I have no formal qualification within Computer Science, Engineering or the likes but I do have a keen interest in the logical, mechanical and technical world as […]
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Imperfections…
I’ve always had a keen interest in the Financial Markets. Graduating with a 2.1 in Economics and starting my career with a Global Bank was exciting; it exposed me to great minds, strong systems and complex products. I have 6 years of Institutional Financial Services experience under my belt at the moment and I have […]
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Attraction is not a choice…
Sometimes her mood changes; now I find this very interesting because when it comes down to it, it is real. The basis, I may not initially understand or agree with but the flexibility, randomness and depth of her expressions are one of a kind. She is different from me and I accept that. We don’t […]
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My Story…
Life is more than what we see and touch each day Life is more than what our minds can dis-play It starts on the inside like these words I say Then out in rhymes like these pearls I spray – I grew up curious… My desires for more lead me on this jour-ney Searching for […]
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Passion is Everything…
Passion is unleashed not generated. It is a force that is truly real and not a figment of your imagination. You can’t think you have passion…you know you have passion. This is because it is that part of you that burns and gives life through your expressions…without necessarily any effort on your part. This […]
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How addictive is addictive?
I have an addictive personality, most of my family has struggled with alcohol and I have been an alcoholic for 7 years. I have read many self-help books, but still find myself struggling. Do you think this biological trait is stronger than my desire to change? Desire is the strongest thing possible. And by this […]
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Staying in the present…
No matter what happens to me, I find myself either living in the past or hoping about the future. Can you help me to live more in the present, and be happy with myself as I am? To be honest, living in the present requires time and practice….so don’t be hard on yourself. Help here […]
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Comfort Zones…
Few weeks ago, I spent a Friday night at a roller disco in Vauxhall. Now I write this because this was my first time trying such an activity; so there’s a part of me that was second guessing my desire to give it a try. I went around the rink about 5 times of which […]
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Shinning your light…
My journey of self-discovery, in context of my nature as a writer with a keen mind, has been very interesting. From the writing, editing and publication of my first book, Unobservable Life to the feedback, critic and reviews that it brought; I am grateful for the experience. Of little knowledge to me, others were watching […]
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Me against the World…
From the moment we are born the world labels us, pretty, thin, smart, doctor, lawyer, and these labels form who we are. Please explain to me how outside these labels we can define ourselves? Tell me…who is the world? And who makes up the world? We are essentially labelling ourselves… all in different ways but […]
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